Congratulations for the “New Job”. Starting a new job is always exciting and sometime nerve wrecking. You don’t know anyone, and you want to prove how “incredible” you are. Here are a few rules that will help you make the right impression on your boss and integrate with your new team.


During the first few days in your new job, have meeting with your boss to understand your job role and his/ hers expectations from you. Once you are clear on your deliverables (WHAT you need to deliver), concentrate on the HOW.

Understand “HOW” the high – performers in your team – work, relate to each other and handle the boss. This will help you create a stencil for your own success at work.



Hired for a new job, start building your network from day 1. The people you must network with during the initial phase are 1> team members 2> colleagues from others team who impact input to / output from your work 3 > opinion makers with clout in your department / company 4 > high performers who have handled similar job.

A strong network will ensure that your work goes smoothly, there is a better reception for your suggestions / ideas and you understand office dynamics.

While you are networking , be sure to set your boundaries. Ensure that people know how  and when to approach you and for what. You should not regret later that people  consider you too easy going or take  you for granted  or think of you as unapproachable.



The easiest and the worst mistake to make at a new job / new company is to compare it with your previous job, boss, colleagues or processes/ policies of your previous companies. I know that it feels good to suggest improvement in processes based on your previous experience, but unless specifically asked for – do not antagonize your current team by comparing things.

If you want to suggest changes, makes use of what if scenarios or why don’t we try approach. Also, try to identify opinion builders in your team and get their buy in on changes you want to suggest. This will ensure better receptivity for your idea.



Having a strong network is one thing, having an office partner is another.  An office partner is someone who will provide you with an ear, when you want to crib. Will cheer you on as you handle a difficult project & act as your sounding board.

To find an office partner be one, and ensure that whatever is shared with you is not used as gossip fodder with another.



The easiest way to create a strong network is by offering to help. Based on bandwidth available, take on projects no one else wants. Offer to help someone who seems to be struggling or someone who has been assigned a huge project – check with them what needs to be done and deliver.



Identify something related to your job that you love doing or are good at and develop the skills to become an expert. You could be the Digital Marketing expert or the manager who develops promotable talent.

Your specific expertise will help you stand-out within the company.



Don’t expect your manager to develop you. Identify your own career path and attend trainings, take on relevant projects of if need be create your own project. Develop yourself so as to grow in your new role and for future.


Follow these commandments and be successful in your new job.


Want to Burnout at Work – 10 Easy Tips

  1. BE A PERFECTIONIST: Set impossible standards for yourself and know that good enough is just not acceptable. Try to squeeze out every drop of productivity from daily work. Beat yourself if everything isn’t perfect and sacrifice everything from family time to “me time” to get it “just” right.
  2. LACK BELIEF: Lack belief in your own ability to accomplish goals and tasks (ensuring that you are stressed out even before you start) or do work that you don’t believe in (personal values clash with you companies values or your current job). Let the clash & stress erode you and make you prone to BURNOUT J
  3. EAT LUNCH AT DESK: Treat your body as a machine and work without break. Take your lunch at your desk – after all taking a break might mean the end of the world, collapse of economy or at least the bankruptcy of your company. Forget the fact that giving yourself a break will refresh you and make you more productive.
  4. DON’T TAKE VACATIONS: Going in line with point no 3, I suggest that you should not take any vacations if you wish to burnout fast. As a vacation means enjoyment, fun & relaxation while reconnecting with family, friends and yourself which can ease your stress. A strict no – no if you really wish to burnout.
  5. DON’T COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR BOSS: Unclear job description, routine activities, poor job fit, being micro managed, and no growth prospects can all lead to burnout. So for a faster burnout never discuss these with your boss/ HR to get them resolved.
  6. NEVER SAY “NO”: In line with above never say “No”. Deadline pushed forward – accept, overloaded still more work put on your plate – say yes. Colleague slacking but asking you to do his / her job – be happy. Being pulled in all directions and not having a single minute to yourself will easily stress you out.
  7. DON’T TRUST YOUR COLLEAGUES / SUBORDINATES: Trusting relationship with your colleagues and subordinates would mean “POSITIVE WORK ENVIORONMENT” which is toxic to burnout. Always be scared and believe that people around you are there only to sabotage you and are just waiting to bring out their knives. Be scared and stressed about it J
  8. DON’T HAVE ANY SOCIAL NETWORK APART FROM WORK COLLEAGUES: Unlike the point above if you are made to suffer and work with a great bunch of people at work. Ensure you do not have any social circle apart from them. Talk shop on weekends (if you are not working or dreaming / thinking of work) or on all your outings. No mental break from work, same people in and out of office will help you to burnout. To burnout even faster don’t have any network at all, as feeling isolated will make you feel more stressed.
  9. DON’T CULTIVATE ANY HOBBIES: Hobbies are detrimental if you really wish to burnout. Stay away from things that you may “Love” to do. A hobby can be therapeutic -will relax you, give you a mental break & make you happy L. This is not desirable as cultivating a hobby will make you better-rounded as your self-worth and identity should be solely based on your work.
  10. DON’T TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF: Last but not the least ensure that you do not have fixed hours for anything. You should be sleep deprived, should not eat healthy or exercise.

Following all the tips above will mean that you are on your to be “ Happily Burned out”



I have no idea why people automatically associate networking with big conferences or events/ meeting with lots of people attending and giving out business cards.

These events are just one part of initially connecting with someone from your industry/interest area and you don’t have to attend these if a large group makes you uncomfortable.

Networking is the art of developing long term mutually beneficial relation; it does not depend on number of connections but dependability of the connection. Networking  does not happen in one day.


Your need defines the network you create. Your network should be built to address your future aspirations while meeting your current goals.


Write down your goal and now make a list of all people in your current network. Any yes we all have a current network.

Write down the names of your family members, friends, neighbours, co-workers, colleagues, and even casual acquaintances.

Find relationship between your goals and network.

Say your goal is to find a job in “X” field – you can use your current network to a > know of an available job or b > connect you to someone who will know of one.

Remember each member in your network connects you to another network (e.g., your ex – colleague may know the HR of a company currently hiring)


I think that the two most difficult things to do for an introvert are a> asking for feedback and b> asking for help for self. It feels uncomfortable asking for favours.

Here are a few tips to help you ask for help

1>     Articulate your goal: Define what you are looking for in a concise and clear manner.

Be it an introduction to a connection in the LinkedIn network, referral to a job or potential client references. Be clear about what you are looking for, why you are looking for it, how your network connection can help you and what is your offer.

2>     Send customized mailer with your goal, using the guideline above to your connections.

Example: “I carry 4+ years of experience in Talent Acquisition, HR MIS, Employee Shared services, Induction and Joining, Compensation & Benefit management related areas with XYZ Company in your industry. I noticed that currently there’s an open vacancy in your company for a similar position.  Would you mind helping me make a connection with a hiring manager or the recruiter? ”

Remember to send individual emails to people instead of a group email.  People are a lot more inclined to help when they feel you’re reaching out to them individually.

An email takes away the embarrassment that you feel in asking for a face to face favour.

3>     Follow-up, update and thank your connections

Always provide feedback to those who were kind of enough to offer their help. Thank them for their time. Update them on whether you got the interview or the job. Or use the opportunity to report on the lack of success or the need for additional help.


Here are a few ways to ensure that you are able to build the relationship with your current network and enlarge your network without overwhelming yourself.

1>     Arrange for a 1 to 1 lunch / coffee meeting

For an introvert this is one of the best ways to have a face to face interaction, as the time duration is limited. The interaction is limited to one person and awkward silences can be covered by talking about food / coffee or actually eating.

2>     Volunteer for a cause you are passionate about or on a committee to connect with people who share similar interests.

The shared interest will give you something to talk about with the new members, while the work will ensure that you do not have to make unnecessary small talk.

3>     Blog

Read http://heidicohen.com/19-blog-tips-to-expand-your-reach/ to know how to use the blog for networking.

4>     Use you-tube / webinars

Hint: The advantages are same as blogging, but you talk / video record yourself. Making it easier for people to connect to you. People link webinars with experts.

5>     Host your own Networking event

Benefits: You decide who you will invite. You can define the format of event to make it easier for you to interact. You give people a reason to get to know you as a connector and strengthen your relationships.

Ideas: Speed networking, Bring a guest, Theme of the month event, Breakfast meeting etc.

6>     Follow on twitter / LinkedIn

Know what’s happening in your network by following your connect and those you plan to connect with. Reply to their tweets , comment on their posts, retweet , reblog and send them emails once in a while.


Remember a network is not about only taking, it’s more about “giving back”. The more you “give” to your network, the stronger it becomes. Making you stronger, making you successful.

Appraisal Hack : Preparing for an appraisal



  1. Collect back-ground material: The following material can help you create smart self-appraisal, which in turn will help you with your actual discussion with your manager.
    1. Job description : to define boundaries and expectations
    2. Targets versus accomplishments : quantitative data for performance highlights
    3. Last year’s competence appraisal: for highlighting strengths and achievements related to areas of development
  2. Create an accomplishments list:  List any projects that you handled that you finished ahead of the deadline or under budget. Think about ways you saved or made the company money. Any process improvements you made during the year. Include any new training or skills you acquired during the year and how they have helped you and will in turn help the company.
  3. Do a self-appraisal: Even if your company doesn’t formally do them, it’s good idea to complete a self-evaluation. Use the same performance appraisal form your manager will be using. Go through each competency and goal listed, and rate your performance. Be honest in your ratings with ready reckoner of justification for rating. In case its competence based appraisal you will be facing, go through the demonstrated behaviors associated and keep ready 4 to 5 instances where you exhibited such behaviors.
  4. Have a goal sheet: Be ready with a list of goals you would like to pursue and skills you’d like to develop over the next year (ensure that these goals and skills have direct impact on current job & are aligned to your career plan). While defining your goals you might want to look for opportunities to expand your duties, broaden your knowledge, or take on additional responsibility. Draft these as goals and you might actually get a toe hold onto a future higher responsibility position.
  5. Personal needs discussion: The review process is your opportunity to ask for a raise or promotion, and have an open discussion about your career path and potential opportunities. For most people it’s difficult to bring these things up while sitting face-to-face with the supervisor, so create a written list of items you’d like to discuss. If it’s still difficult for you to discuss forward this sheet along with self-appraisal & goal sheet prior to appraisal as agenda items.

Have a great appraisal.

Body Language Tips for the Interview


You may have the best resume & the perfect answers but what differentiates two equally suitable candidates in an interview is the body language. Use the below body language tips to make you seem confidant & enthusiastic, avoiding any kind of faux pas

Walking in

Walk in straight, smile, make eye contact and shake your hands with each individual in the room. Introduce yourself using your first and last name as you shake hands.


Keep the handshake firm, but remember it’s not a wrestling matching and you don’t have to crush your opponent fingers.  Don’t do a dead fish / limp handshake it makes you seem submissive.

The handshake should not be prolonged or be too short – count till 3 inside your head and let it go.

Do not cover the interviewers hand with both of yours or shake the hand or pump the other person’s hand more than three times

Sitting position & distance

Sit upright but in a relaxed fashion leaning slightly forward at about a 10 to 15 degree angle towards the interviewer to show you are interested. Do not lean back, it is lazy or arrogant and slouching is just lazy.

If you lean too forward and stretch your hands or body over interviewers desk , you will come across as aggressive and will create discomfort for the interviewers whose personal space you will be entering.

Keeping your head straight looks self-assured and authoritative, it sends the message that you should be taken seriously. For a more friendly and relaxed look tilt your head slightly to one side. Nod your head every now and then to show you are listening closely.

Whatever you do , please don’t fidget  unless you want to appear nervous.


The two major mistakes candidates make in regards with the use of hands during interview is a> make chopping or pointing motions which appears aggressive or b> keeping the hands hidden which makes one seem as less open and less honest

The best thing to do with your hands is to rest them loosely clasped in your lap or on the table, if there is one. You may also want to use the steeple to get your point across, if you feel strongly about it. Steepling projects confidence.

Do not touch the nose, lips or ears with your hands , it  can signal that the candidate is lying.


Folding arms across the chest signal defensiveness and resistance. It sends the message that the candidate is shutting the interviewer out and is either feeling or does not agree with what the interviewer is saying.

Keep your arms open and let your hands rest loosely clasped.


It’s important to be confident and look the interviewer in the eye, but do break away. Locking eyes with someone for an extended period of time can be interpreted as aggressive or creepy.

If you are not comfortable with looking a person directly in the eye, keep your gaze centred in the triangle formed by eyes and nose. Distracted, never looking in the eye while answering or upward eye movements can suggest someone is lying or is not sure.

If you have more than one person interviewing you at once, briefly address both people with your gaze and return your attention to the person who has asked you a question.


Nod once or twice with a smile of agreement. But find your still centre and stay there. A bobble head appears to be too agreeable, while lacking his / her own perspective.

Facial expressions

Match your words, tone & facial expressions.

Do not purse the lips or twist them sideways, it shows disapproval of what is being heard. Biting your lips suggests nervousness. Try to relax your mouth. Do not smile too much unless you hear a joke.


Crossing feet at the ankles or placing them both flat on the floor sends a message of confidence and professionalism.  Do not rest an ankle on the opposite knee – it looks arrogant and casual, while crossing the legs high up appears defensive.


Use mirroring to create a connection through body language. Influence it to give the interviewer the feeling that you are getting on. For example, if the interviewer leans forward, you may lean forward to; if he nods, you may nod too. Do not start mirroring as soon as you start with the interview process, do not copy instantaneously or it will look awkward ,do not overdo it.

 Have a great interview !!!